Co-parenting is a delicate process that demands cooperation from both parties. Navigating the intricacies of your responsibilities can be challenging.
However, if you steer clear of common mistakes, you can create a stable environment for your children to thrive in.
1. Lack of open dialogue
In the U.S., about 27% of all children live with only one parent. A common mistake many divorced parents make is failing to communicate with the other parent. Failing to maintain transparent lines of communication can cause misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts. It’s imperative to establish a reliable means of communication through regular check-ins, calendars or digital platforms designed for collaboration.
Communication allows you to remain on the same page as your co-parent, regarding important decisions and schedules. It also fosters an atmosphere of mutual respect.
2. Foregoing consistency in routines and rules
Children require a nurturing and stable environment to thrive. Co-parents should maintain a unified front for rules, routines and discipline. Inconsistencies between households create confusion and anxiety.
Co-parents should discuss and agree upon guidelines, such as bedtime routines, homework schedules and screen time limits. When both households have similar fundamental rules, children experience less interference with their daily lives.
3. Allowing personal feelings to interfere with co-parenting
Divorce can bring forth emotional turmoil and frustration. However, parents must compartmentalize their conflicts to prioritize the needs of their kids. Unresolved issues may create a toxic atmosphere and affect a child’s emotional well-being. Do not include your children in any fighting with your co-parent as this can cause the child to pick sides.
When it comes to venting about your former relationship, find an adult friend or family member to talk to and avoid discussing your hardships with your children.
